Being in a new relationship can entail confusion for many women. Navigating first dates and new conversations with someone you don’t know very well can be stressful. You may date more than one person when dating, as long as you haven’t mutually agreed to be exclusive. This can bring about a whole new wave of confusion and add another layer to the feeling of stress felt while dating.
The good news is you can crack the code. Here are five signs he wants to date you exclusively.
His Body Language
If you are searching for signs that he wants to date you exclusively, chances are he isn’t coming out and saying it. Nonverbal cues such as body language could be a great indicator to get you the answers you seek.
The first thing you can look out for is eye contact. Is he intently paying attention to you when you speak or while he is speaking to you? Studies have shown that people who engage in constant eye contact during social interaction are interested in the person they are talking to. If you have a sneaking suspicion that he wants to be exclusive with you and his eyes are set on you, you might be able to assume you are correct!
The position of his feet could also tell a story when you are standing or sitting across from one another; note which way his feet are pointing. According to experts, when a person engages with someone they are interested in, their feet will point towards them. Alternatively, if they are not interested or forcing themselves to interact with said person, their feet will point away. This nonverbal cue is normally one of the signs he wants to date you exclusively.
Body language is an art that is not always easily learned. The strategies you use to determine the answers to your question are not set in stone. You could misinterpret something either way, so it’s not a good idea to bank on this alone. If you combine this with several other indicators, though, it can help you to get a better idea of whether he is interested in moving to the next level with you.
He Doesn’t Talk to Other Girls.
A man who is ready to date a woman exclusively won’t find interest in other women. This is something easy that you can look out for to help you answer your questions.
Especially if the guy you are dating is normally a flirt, you should easily spot this sign. If he shows signs that he wants to date you exclusively, you might see him step back from engaging other women in flirty talk. This is because he will now have his sights set on you and isn’t interested in entertaining other women.You will decide better if this applies to your love interest if you have taken the time to get to know him. Some men are naturally chatty people, and what comes across as flirting to you could be unintentional on his side. The main thing you are looking for here is a shift in interaction with other women versus what you have seen in the past. Even a minor change in this can mean a lot for the relationship.
If your crush is still interacting with other girls, that doesn’t mean he isn’t interested in you. Some guys refrain from asking a crush to go exclusive for fear of rejection or failure. If you have a hunch that he wants to do more than go on casual dates, don’t base your decision on who he does or doesn’t talk to. Sure, this is fun to analyze if you’re curious, but it isn’t foolproof.
He Makes Time for You
A man that wants to make a relationship with you will make time for you. If you notice that he is clearing time in his schedule for you, it may be one of the signs he wants to date you exclusively.
When you notice that he wants to spend more and more time with you, he might want to go exclusive. This is especially telling if you see him bailing on plans with other friends or declining invitations in favor of spending more time with you. On the other hand, a guy that frequently doesn’t call or doesn’t show up to the plans you have made together probably isn’t interested. Men make time for the things they prioritize.
Starting a relationship with a new partner is exciting. Amidst all this excitement, it can be tempting to thwart everything in your life in favor of spending as much time as possible with your new love interest. You might be tempted to forego plans with friends or family so that you can clear more time in your schedule, and he might do the same. While this is one of the more charming signs that he wants to date you exclusively, it shouldn’t be continued for long periods. You need a full, enriched life full of interactions with many different people.
You should encourage him to resist the urge to spend all his time with you. Not only will you enjoy some time outside the relationship, but you will also learn how to be apart. This way, when you decide to pull the trigger and go exclusive, you won’t be dependent on one another for happiness or safety. The boundaries and rules that you set while you are dating set the pace for your entire relationship. Make sure you are making the right decisions early on to save yourself a headache at some point in the future.
He Is Reliable
A guy that wants to date you exclusively will always be there for you. If you come to a time in need, he should be the first one you call and the first one to show up.
If you find yourself in trouble or just in need of a hand, a guy that wants to be exclusive with you will show up and show out. This will be someone you will come to depend on, and you will be able to relax knowing that he is here for you no matter what. He will never ask for anything in return and will delight in helping you simply for the fact that he will be in your presence.
If you find someone willing to be there for you when you need it, pursuing this relationship is worthwhile.
He Brings You Around His Friends
One of the telltale signs he wants to date you exclusively is whether he brings you around his friends.
A guy that wants to date you exclusively will want to show you off. He will also more than likely want to know that his friends approve before making his next move. If he invites you over to hang out with him and his friends, you might be able to conclude that he is considering dating you exclusively. Including you in his social circle is one of the first steps he will take in evaluating a possible exclusive relationship with you.
If you find yourself in this situation, don’t panic. Many women get scared or nervous to meet their crush’s home team for fear that they will mess things up with the relationship. The best thing you can do is be yourself and be genuine. If you attempt to put up a front, his friends are likely to notice, and he may wonder why you aren’t comfortable being yourself. If you have gotten this far, you should know he appreciates your personality. Stay true to yourself, and you will not fail!
If It Gets Too Overwhelming
The ins and outs of transitioning a relationship from dating to exclusive can be confusing and stressful. The signs mentioned here can be helpful indicators of a relationship. Still, ultimately open and honest communication about what you want in a relationship is most helpful in determining where things are headed. If you are noticing you are experiencing a great deal of stress resulting from this, help is available.
The counselors and therapists at ReGain are here to guide you through any of your life struggles, no matter how big or small. If you wish to have some guidance along the way, reach out! You deserve all the peace you can get.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs):
How do you tell if he wants to be exclusive?
Signs that someone you are dating wants to be exclusive include telling others about you, introducing you to friends and family, no longer using dating apps, posting pictures with you on social media, their emotions openly with you, and showing interest in your opinions. It’s a good sign if someone you see talks about the future, as it indicates that they are thinking long term and picture you as a part of their life.
How many dates before you are exclusive?
There is no definitive amount of date that marks the transition into exclusivity. Some individuals might feel ready to become exclusive after three or four dates, while for others, it may take ten or more to make that shift. Many sources state that the number of dates is less important than the amount of time spent together and the communication between dates. What is most important is to assess the emotional connection and how you would feel about the person you’re seeing dating other people. If this thought is upsetting to you, it may be time to talk about defining the relationship.
How do you know if he wants to date you?
They might also tell you upfront that they are tired of casual dating and are interested in something more serious.
How long does it take a guy to know he wants to date you?
It looks different for each individual. Some sources claim that it takes someone 10 dates to know for sure that they see you as a long-term partner (the 10 date rule). However, some individuals know more quickly than they want something more serious with their seeing.
How do you tell if a guy wants a relationship or just a hookup?
Signs that indicate someone is probably interested in a hookup include not showing any intention of having you meet people in their life such as friends family, inviting you to come over late at night instead of asking you on a real date (in broad daylight), and avoiding questions about defining the relationship.
On the other hand, someone who wants a more serious relationship with you is more likely to be open about their emotions, be intentional about seeing you, and maintaining communication. Making plans for the future is also a sign that they are thinking long-term.
If you are unsure of the intentions of someone you are seeing, it is better to ask upfront. Having an open discussion early on can avoid hurt feelings down the road if you turn out not to be on the same page with what you are looking for.
How do you tell if he likes you or wants a fling?
In our modern dating world, it can sometimes be difficult to tell if an individual is seeking a long-term connection or a more casual fling. If the person you’re interested in talks openly with you, is intentional to learn more about you, wants to spend time with you in public, and introduces you to their family, it is likely indicative that they see you as more than a fling.
What is the 3 date rule?
The 3 date rule dictates that individuals should wait until at least the 3rd date to have sex. It is based on harmful gender double standards that a woman who sleeps with a man too soon will be seen as “too loose” and more of a one-night stand than a long-term partner. There is no particular reasoning behind the idea of waiting until the 3rd date.
Instead of abiding by this arbitrary and outdated rule, have an open discussion with a new partner about what you are comfortable with regarding sexual intimacy. Whether it is having sex before the 3rd date or waiting for a longer period of time, what is most important is that both people feel comfortable and respected.
What is the 10 date rule?
The 10 date rule states that it takes an individual 10 dates to see someone as a potential long-term partner. However, there is no concrete evidence to support the 10 date rule as it may take an individual less or more time to develop strong feelings for someone and decide whether they’d like to have them in their life for the long run.
When should you talk about exclusivity?
There is no set time for discussing exclusivity with a new partner. If the thought of someone you are dating seeing other people doesn’t feel good to you, it might be time to have a discussion to define the relationship. An article featuring a relationship expert reveals that having a conversation about exclusivity can help you determine if you are on the same page with what you are looking for.
It is okay to discuss your desires for exclusivity and recognize that the person you’re dating may be moving at a different pace. Overall, each person knowing where the relationship stands removes the guessing and confusion and can avoid hurt feelings down the road.
How do you know he wants you to be his girlfriend?
The person you are seeing likely views you as a potential long-term partner if they are intentional to maintain consistent communication, spend time with you, show interest in learning more about you, talk openly about their emotions, and discuss plans for the future.
Most serious people about dating someone are not interested in playing games and will be upfront about their intentions. If this person hasn’t asked you upfront to be exclusive, it may be time to have a conversation to assess where you both are and where the relationship is headed.