My name is Shelley and I'd like to acknowledge you for taking the step to ask for support. It takes strength and courage to get this far and you already display these qualities. People from all walks of life and at all different times in their life can benefit from the right person listening to and supporting them. Having an objective person can be exactly what you need to move forward in a positive direction.
I work with couples and individuals experiencing a variety of difficult emotions, often due to life changes or transitions (marriage, separation, divorce, new job, left a job, moving to new house/state, new relationship, end of a relationship, new baby, etc.). I also support parents through the acquisition of skills & deepening their attachment and emotional connection with their children.
I have devoted my career to studying attachment styles and their effect on how we show up in the world. Our attachment style leads to how we show up in relationships, how we feel when we're in them (safe/not safe) and how we react as a result. Making sense of our life experiences, putting them in context, allows us to pave a successful path for a better future.
I'd like to help empower you.
I utilize techniques and skill from PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy), EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) and The Couples Development Model. These approaches are based in attachment theory and utilize scientific findings in both neurobiology and attachment to create the therapy process
Neuroscience has shown us most of how we react to situations is below the "surface" (brain/thoughts) and instead deep in our body. Like an iceberg, we only see/feel the reaction that is on the surface.
My theoretical approach is strength-based. We won't look at what you are arguing about in your relationship. Instead, we look at - and build - your ability to manage and support each other, to create the sense of “we,” instead of me, especially during conflict.
My techniques are tailored to best meet you where you are, meaning, we don’t do or talk about anything you’re not ready for. I will always respect your boundaries.
I offer a friendly, warm, reflective space where difficult feelings, behaviors and thoughts can be safely explored in a non-judgmental atmosphere.
I look forward to hearing from you.
PS: I take the weekends off to spend time with my loved ones, to relax, and to nurture myself. If you leave a message after 8:00 pm Friday or anytime on the weekend, I won't see it until Monday morning, but assure you I will respond then!
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Intimacy-related issues
- Parenting issues
- Coping with life changes
I also have experience in Family conflicts, Trauma and abuse, Grief, Anger management, Self esteem, Compassion fatigue, ADHD
LMFT #0001396 (Expires: 2021-08-01)
Shelley, my husband and I connected almost immediately. She listens, is no nonsense, and does it in a caring manner. I cannot say enough good things about her and I’m so lucky we found her. Thank you Shelley.