Richard Boersma


About Me

I've never encountered a "perfect relationship," married or not, younger or older, in counseling or just socializing, It is a union of two individuals, two personalities, and conflict is inevitable. Let's start with that. Figuring out the basis of partner problems is our next job -- not so much the stuff you argue about (aren't you both so tired of that!?) but the feelings within each of you when you do argue. That's where real communication happens, and how things can get worked out.

Sometimes one-half the relationship is open to counseling but the other is not. I can work with that, and most often the three of us end up collaborating, whether through individual sessions or all together. The issues may seem quite clear -- an affair, alcohol or drugs, poor communication, differences in ways of handling the kids or money or sex -- but often they are not fully discovered, until counseling. Sometimes divorce seems like the only option (and yes, it may be), but I strongly urge you not to take that step unless/until you've worked with a marriage therapist.

In my relationship counseling, I listen closely to both individuals without bias, striving to understand what things look like from each "side" so I can help the real patient -- the relationship itself. I am a sensitive and compassionate person, but believe my role is more about straight talk than hand-holding. So, if you've got a broken relationship, or it needs a good oiling, let's get started.


  • Stress, Anxiety
  • Relationship issues
  • Family conflicts
  • Self esteem
  • Coping with life changes
Also experienced in:
Trauma and abuse , Grief , Intimacy-related issues , Sleeping disorders , Parenting issues , Anger management , Career difficulties , Bipolar disorder , Depression , Coaching , ADHD , Aging and Geriatric Issues , Avoidant Personality , Read more...

Clinical approaches:
Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Existential Therapy, Mindfulness Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy

Years of Experience: 3

Services Offered

  • Messaging

  • Phone

  • Video


LPC #251 (Expires: 2021-08-01)


Written by C.O. on Mar 15, 2020 after counseling with Richard for 3 months on issues concerning relationship

We’re so fortunate to have been paired with Richard. He’s very insightful and professional.

Written by R.O. on Jan 17, 2020 after counseling with Richard for 1 month on issues concerning relationship

Richard connected with us quickly and even provided helpful resources until we could schedule our first session. This process has taken us by surprise and it accommodates our lifestyle so well. We are fortunate to have been paired with Richard, working with him has been simple and intuitive. He is a helpful guide, keeping us looking forward to reconnecting 2-3 times a month. I highly recommend even for the healthiest of relationships, our experience has been very rewarding.