Rebecca Stiemens


About Me

Do you and you partner enjoy each other's company, time and love for one another and other commonalities? Despite the common ground are you struggling to solve problems, to listen and understand one another? Are you worried that this may be the end of your relationship? Are you telling one another more often than not that you want a divorce? Are you worried that if changes are not made you will divorce, separate or break up? Research shows, that up to 69% of conflict in a long term relationship may not ever be resolved. In other words the current problem you are fighting about well likely be the same problem in 5 years. However, this is encouraging to know because you and your partner are (statistically) normal It is also the fact that while you are having the same argument over and over it does not necessarily mean it is a sign that your relationship is doomed. It may actually be a sign that your relationship has a hope.

How could I help you? I can give you strategies for working together and communicating more effectively so that you can get back to enjoying each other. I can help you choose kindness. Choose humor. Most importantly, choose perspective. I can help you listen to understand and to validate one another even when you do not agree. I can teach you ways to compromise without losing your own needs and desires in the midst of compromise. We will explore your love maps and I help you gain insight into how those impact your relationship. We will explore and identify the Four Horseman in your relationship and I will help you learn how to overcome and avoid them in the future. I will help you accept that mistakes are normal. Arguments will happen - it is about the repair after the fight that matters.

What forms of intervention will be used? As a therapist who has completed the Level 3 Practicum Training in the Gottman method couples therapy, I will utilize a great deal of Gottman interventions and research to support you and your partner . Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) - combines learning to decrease negative, self defeating self talk with increasing healthy behaviors. Mindfulness - is the basic human ability to be fully present, aware of where we are and what we’re doing, and not overly reactive or overwhelmed by what’s going on around us. Identify and / or develop anxiety management techniques. Identification of family and social support who will be available to you outside of our sessions


  • Stress, Anxiety
  • Relationship issues
  • Family conflicts
  • Trauma and abuse
  • Grief

I also have experience in Addictions, LGBT, Intimacy-related issues, Sleeping disorders, Parenting issues, Anger management, Self esteem, Career difficulties, Bipolar disorder, Depression, Coping with life changes, Compassion fatigue, ADHD

Years of Experience: 15

Services Offered

  • Messaging

  • Phone

  • Video


LCSW #57211 (Expires: 2022-02-28)

LCSW #10462489-3501 (Expires: 2020-09-30)

LICSW #LC50081554 (Expires: 2021-07-31)


Written by R.O. on Sep 25, 2019 after counseling with Rebecca for 2 years and 1 month on issues concerning relationship

Rebeccas has been very helpful with advice in my relationship. My spouse and I don't always agree and we both seem to get into heated discussions. She's not afraid to tell me when I'm wrong, which I respect. But she also supports me and gives advice on what to do when I am right. She is very encouraging and supportive. Thanks Rebecca!

Written by S.H. on Jan 30, 2019 after counseling with Rebecca for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Rebecca is amazing! She the asks questions that require us to stop and rethink the way we look at situations.

Written by C.O. on Apr 29, 2018 after counseling with Rebecca for 4 months on issues concerning relationship

She’s an awesome counselor! She always asks the right questions to make me think outside the box.

Written by R.O. on Apr 04, 2018 after counseling with Rebecca for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Rebecca is awesome, she listens and she very understanding. I would recommend her to someone and Im very satisfied with her service.