I love working with couples because that way I get to see both sides of the coin, so to speak, and get both partners' opinion about the situation and what they perceive to be the problem, and also to witness their rich inner world as it unfolds with another person. I believe that every relationship has problems and difficulties; after all it involves more than one person and there is no one else who is 'us'. Sometimes we don't even like ourselves and don't get along with our own self, so why should it be any different when an extra person is included in the equation? At the same time, if we are in a relationship we have to expect that we will have to compromise at some point, and give up something that we want or like in exchange for the privilege of being with the other person. The other person would naturally have to do the same, and let's not forget that research has found almost a full 70% of couples disagreements are considered irreconcilable! That is a truly stunning figure and it would appear that many relationships would be doomed with little chance of success just based on that. However, relationships can not only work but flourish when both partners are invested in their relationship and have some basic tools to make that happen.
The first and foremost requirement to facilitate that is for each partner to be willing to look at themselves and engage in consistent and honest self examination. We should be asking ourselves what our part in a situation or concern is before we blame the other person; instead of being quick to identify what they are doing wrong we should be asking that of ourselves. I consider it paramount to help each partner do that and become more comfortable with whatever they end up seeing in the mirror. Once they have done that I love to help them fix it and make it better. It is ironic but true - you have to accept yourself just as you are before you go ahead and try to change what it is you are!
I use a lot of attachment-based principles and ideas in my work and I have found that works really well. I don't have any unusual or complicated techniques or tips, I just believe in good old-fashioned common sense and in the importance of building a good, respectful and strong alliance with every client. Research has found that the most important and significant predictor of success in therapy is the relationship built between the therapist and the client, with much less regard than might be expected for the specific technique or school of thought used by the therapist. I bring myself fully to each and every session and I will work as hard as you are willing to work....and sometimes 'carry the water' for you till you are able to carry it yourselves!
- Relationship issues
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
I also have experience in Stress, Anxiety, Addictions, Grief, Parenting issues, Anger management, Self esteem, Bipolar disorder
LMFT #MT2555 (Expires: 2021-03-31)
LMHC #MH6104 (Expires: 2021-03-31)
Potoula is able to understand my issue and offer practical ways to work through or manage my challenges. She also has a very positive approach to life, which is nice.
Potoula is a very kind and generous listener. I feel like she makes strong efforts to put herself in our shoes and listen to both parties evenly and with positive regard. She also makes herself very accessible to us on many levels - she seeks to speak to us on our level.
We found her helpful & provided some techniques which we are using.
My husband and I have been meeting online with Potoula Diaz for a few weeks, and we've already made great progress in the areas of communication where we need improvement. It has also been a great comfort to me to hear her comment on issues from my past in a way that shows how those negative experiences affect me now but can be overcome. I feel supported and comforted by her guidance, and she takes time to truly understand the root of a struggle in order to plan the best path forward for all concerned. Great experience so far!
Potoula has been a great help to my wife and I as we navigate through the the sometimes rocky waters of marriage.
Potoula has been amazing in her professionalism, guidance, and ability to gently deliver truths and in holding mirrors up to ourselves. My partner and I were at the brink of being over and done with one another when we came to Potoula; and today, we are happier than we've ever been. Potoula gave us communication exercises that proved successful for us, and today, we are employing these new methods as we continue to progress in our relationship. She has been non-judgmental, patient and an incredible cheerleader for our relationship once we were back on track. I tried four different counselors before I came across Potoula, and I am full of gratitude to have her expertise on our side. I highly recommend Potoula.
Potoula is really insightful, balanced and sensitive. She gives lengthy, accurate and knowledgeable advise. I suspect that to do that, she really spends time caring about the problems of people she is offering counseling to. Outside her usual office hours. I guess she might have lots of good energy and will to be able to do this. Should not be easy. I liked she is able to zoom out or step back and convey the big picture and essence in a concise, thoughtful and simple manner. I think that's a rare talent. I highly recommend her.
She is excellent!
Potoula has helped my partner and I out a lot! We have noticed changes in our relationship since we started our sessions with her. She is diplomatic, objective and provides her advice sensitively so I that neither of us feel attacked. She is empathetic yet firm. I really enjoy working with her.
Potoula is a great professional
We would recommend Potoula to other couples.
Excellent to work with. Excellent