I am a fully-trained "Systems" therapist, which means my studies and training were primarily focused on not just the profile of an individual, but that we are a part of an intricate web of interactions, seen and unseen, with many other individuals in our lives, and in our families. When someone close to us interacts with us in a partnership, we have a series of automatic responses and reactions, based on core needs and earlier messages of who we are, that do not always allow us to perceive another way of engaging.
Systems theory has us look at ways in which we have become accustomed to dealing with any issue with another, and what roles we play in a group setting, or in a relationship, that we often did not realize we adopted, often involuntarily. Systems theory and couples counseling looks at what happens on the surface as a repeating pattern, and what is actually occurring underneath, unavailable for you and your partner's view.
My experience, practice, and training have shown me that our ways of thinking, feeling, and reacting to one another, are due to years of self-authored truths and assigned roles in a relationship. Our perceptions, interpretations, and beliefs about who we are and what everything means keep us trapped. Together, we will chip away at how to re-author yourself in a non-judgmental setting.
We work at a pace that is tailored to you and your partner's goals, to discover your best self, and what you both can become. Intimacy and connection can become restored and rejuvenated when it becomes more clear what is deeply needed by each partner, and how listening to one another in a different way can recreate this connection that seems lost or broken.
I look forward to working with you!
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
I also have experience in Family conflicts, Intimacy-related issues, Eating disorders, Parenting issues, Self esteem, Coping with life changes
LMFT #112115 (Expires: 2021-03-31)
It has only been my first session but so far so good!
He covers things that I didn't know where there.
Neil has been instrumental in my ability to communicate with my partner. It's been very surprising as I have hated therapy in the past.