I am a fully-trained "Systems" therapist, which means my studies and training were primarily focused on not just the profile of an individual, but that we are a part of an intricate web of interactions, seen and unseen, with many other individuals in our lives, and in our families. When someone close to us interacts with us in a partnership, we have a series of automatic responses and reactions, based on core needs and earlier messages of who we are, that do not always allow us to perceive another way of engaging.
Systems theory has us look at ways in which we have become accustomed to dealing with any issue with another, and what roles we play in a group setting, or in a relationship, that we often did not realize we adopted, often involuntarily. Systems theory and couples counseling looks at what happens on the surface as a repeating pattern, and what is actually occurring underneath, unavailable for you and your partner's view.
My experience, practice, and training have shown me that our ways of thinking, feeling, and reacting to one another, are due to years of self-authored truths and assigned roles in a relationship. Our perceptions, interpretations, and beliefs about who we are and what everything means keep us trapped. Together, we will chip away at how to re-author yourself in a non-judgmental setting.
We work at a pace that is tailored to you and your partner's goals, to discover your best self, and what you both can become. Intimacy and connection can become restored and rejuvenated when it becomes more clear what is deeply needed by each partner, and how listening to one another in a different way can recreate this connection that seems lost or broken.
I look forward to working with you!
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
Family conflicts , Intimacy-related issues , Eating disorders , Parenting issues , Self esteem , Coping with life changes , Abandonment , Adoption and Foster Care , Attachment Issues , Autism and Asperger Syndrome , Avoidant Personality , Blended Family Issues , Body Image , Co-morbidity , Codependency , Commitment Issues , Communication Problems , Control Issues , Dependent Personality , Divorce and Separation , Drug and Alcohol Addiction , Eating and Food-Related Issues , Emptiness , Family of Origin Issues , Family Problems , Fatherhood Issues , Forgiveness , Gender Dysphoria , Guilt and Shame , HIV / AIDS , Hoarding , Immigration Issues , Impulsivity , Infidelity , Isolation/Loneliness , Jealousy , Life Purpose , Men's Issues , Midlife Crisis , Military and Veterans Issues , Money and Financial Issues , Mood Disorders , Multicultural Concerns , Narcissism , Obsessions, Compulsions, and OCD , Panic Disorder and Panic Attacks , Paranoia , Personality Disorders , Phobias , Polyamory / Nonmonogamous Relationships , Postpartum Depression , Posttraumatic Stress , Prejudice and Discrimination , Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling) , Self-Love , Sex Addiction , Sexual Assault and Abuse , Sexual Dysfunction , Sexuality , Smoking/Vaping Cessation , Social Anxiety and Phobia , Workplace Issues , Young Adult Issues Read more...
Attachment-Based Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), Existential Therapy, Gottman Method, Imago Relationship Therapy, Mindfulness Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy
LMFT #112115 (Expires: 2021-03-01)
I really like talking with Neil.
Neil has been a great resource for us and we are very luckily to have found him.
Neil takes the times to understand the relationship dynamic and provides tools and advice that are applicable and guiding towards a healthier and more fulfilling relationship. In just a few months our relationship has improved dramatically and we have Neil to thank for that.
Neil so far has been great. I’ve really enjoyed working with him. He’s been very good at listening, and providing analogies to progress the discuss into deeper reflection.
My girlfriend and I were in a place where we were feeling ready to separate, but wanted to give counseling a try, and I’m glad we did! The sessions have really helped us communicate much better, both in session and out of session, which has made our relationship improve by leaps and bounds.
Neil helped us understand each other better after just one session. He’s great and understanding and went out of his way to work with our schedule
Neil is great, and has helped loads.
My husband and I very much appreciate Neil's empathy, intelligence, and expertise in helping us explore and repair the disconnect that arose in our marriage. We now have a clear path to follow, and have been reconnecting every day.
Dr. Babins has actually listened to us and given practical help. Although our schedules are unpredictable, Dr. Babins has gone out of his way to make time for us. We feel actually heard and the therapy has been significantly better than what we have received from costly in-person therapists.
It has only been my first session but so far so good!
He covers things that I didn't know where there.
Neil has been instrumental in my ability to communicate with my partner. It's been very surprising as I have hated therapy in the past.