About me

I have been working as a therapist for almost 20 years, and have helped many couples to regain a sense of comfort and enjoyment with one another. I have noticed that a lot of couples struggle with resentment, which, when you think about it, is a result of old anger or disappointment that was not expressed at the time. We sometimes try to overlook things in our relationships, but when they compound over time, they can become much larger and more pervasive problems. It's a bit like a festering wound.

In couples work, I assist both individuals in finding their voice to share their story, and also in learning how best to listen to the other person. While it may be natural to have a desire to be proven "right," no one benefits when their partner is "wrong" -- let alone when their partner feels that way! When we still have common ground, common goals and wishes for the ways we want to feel and interact, we still have a great deal of hope that we can heal in our approaches with one another. Communication is key, and is not something we are taught in school. If we did not have positive role models for healthy relationships, we may not even know how a good relationship can work. With patience, we partners can develop a sense of this together.

I have worked extensively with heterosexual and homosexual couples and also with individuals who identify as non-binary and transgender. My couples work includes folks who are quite young and who have been together only a short while, up through the life span, and including many individuals who have been partnered for several decades.

Many couples enter into therapy due to sexual difficulties, and these can at times be difficult to talk about. In our sessions, partners will have an opportunity to express themselves in ways they may have feared in the past, and find that their concerns are being listened to and considered in a genuine way.

I have always believed that we can heal. As we gain confidence in ourselves, we are able to participate in life more and more -- which in turn allows us to enjoy our partner more and more. The more satisfied we feel with the world we create, and our responses to the world around us, the more we find ourselves healing from within and without. As we walk the path toward true and lasting change, both insight and coping help us to move forward.

I have helped people to heal from Anxiety and Depression, a host of relationship difficulties, lack of motivation and self-love (sometimes called self-esteem), trauma, abuse and post-traumatic stress, LGBTQ+ related issues, and those pertaining to family of origin. We can heal from our issues, and we can also increase our functioning along the way. Coping can go hand-in-hand with true and lasting healing that leads to a greater sense of peace in our lives. I consider it an honor and privilege to be trusted to walk this path with you.

I would like to add that some couples enter into couples therapy hoping to end their relationship. This is also a valid and worthy goal when both individuals have this as their hope for the future. Saying goodbye to a partner in a way that allows both people to feel upheld, valued, and still with their dignity intact, is an important thing.

I would also like to share that many couples enter into therapy with divergent views of the outcome they wish to achieve. Quite often one partner "wants out, while the other wants in." In such cases, for the partner who hopes that reparation is possible, it can be very painful to see their partner hoping to go their separate ways.

It's no less painful for the partner who is ready to say goodbye. In these cases, I have had a great deal of experience, and will assist both partners in feeling they have maintained their dignity and have explored their feelings fully, as they prepare for the future.


Specialties

  • Stress, Anxiety
  • LGBTQ+
  • Relationships
  • Self esteem, Motivation
  • Depression
Also experienced in:
Addictions , Family conflicts , Trauma and abuse , Grief , Intimacy-related issues , Coping with life changes , Abandonment , Body image , Codependency , Commitment Issues , Communication problems , Control issues , Read more...

Clinical approaches:
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Existential Therapy, Hypnotherapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy

Years of Experience: 19

Services offered


  • Messaging

  • Phone

  • Video

Licensing

IL LCSW 149013603


Reviews

These quotes represent just a few of the many positive reviews that we have received for Michele McShea. We don't pay anyone to provide their review and they are all made voluntarily. Some people's experience receiving therapy with Regain might be different.

Written on Feb 20, 2024 after therapy with Michele for 2 months on issues concerning relationship

Michele helped me greatly. I can confidently say I understand myself better thanks to her. She offers me different ways to tackle my issues and I have found each and every one of them helpful.

Written on Jan 06, 2024 after therapy with Michele for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Michele has made such a difference in my life and my thought process over just a couple weeks. I am so grateful that she has been so responsive in this time of crisis for both my husband and I. 10/10 recommend!

Written on Oct 21, 2023 after therapy with Michele for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Michele is pro-active, good listener and does a great job

Written on Sep 12, 2023 after therapy with Michele for 3 months on issues concerning relationship

Michelle is incredibly encouraging and smart. I always leave our sessions feeling positive and encouraged about my progress.

Written on Sep 01, 2023 after therapy with Michele for 2 months on issues concerning relationship

Michele is the best therapist out there and trust me I’ve had plenty. She’s patient, shes caring, and all of the above. I can be intense at times and she genuinely listens to every word and isn’t shy to give constructive feedback; Because of that I leave happier talking to her. Michele has made me feel comfortable to the point where I can reach out to her whenever, and I know she’ll be there for me. I trust her judgment completely. She understands me, and that allowed me to express myself in detail without holding back and because of it we just recently we found out the root of my problems. That feeling is as amazing as she is. Thank you Michele for being you.

Written on Aug 30, 2023 after therapy with Michele for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Michele is very understanding and is always there to listen. I live in the uk and she always responds quickly when I need her. Would highly recommend :)

Written on Aug 02, 2023 after therapy with Michele for 2 months on issues concerning relationship

Michele is incredibly empathetic and supportive. She not only listens, but helps us understand our feelings and reflect on them in purpseful ways. We've only been working with her a few months but she has completely transformed our relationships and the way we approach conflict. We couldn't be happier!

Written on Jun 28, 2023 after therapy with Michele for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Michele is amazing and really cares about her patients.

Work with me!