Many couples report that therapy saved their relationship when they were on the brink of separation or even divorce. But marriage counseling is not for the faint-of-heart. Couples therapy is hard work and requires dedication from both partners. But many times, what happens is a spouse will enter therapy just to check off a to-do list item but not put in the required investment of time and emotional work. Many people do not understand that issues from early life events, trauma, and development, can impact their capacity to attach in health ways and communicate honestly. Unprocessed events like these may give rise to difficult emotions like anger and disappointment. I will want you to begin to process some of these difficult events. It may seem that the relationship is getting worse before it gets better. As with any form of therapy, there are no guarantees, but your success in therapy is directly related to the motivation of both you and your partner and your willingness to stay the course when things get tough. Successful marriage counseling has to do with what the two partners bring to the counseling sessions. If both partners have the motivation and the will to improve, you can expect positive results. Unfortunately, couples may lose passion or drive, making marriage difficult to repair. One of the biggest issues that overshadows marriage counseling is that couples tend to let their marriage fall to its lowest point before they visit a marriage counselor. Successful marriages address issues early, before the marriage is too broken. The collapse of communication is one of the main causes for the need for marriage counseling. Sometimes, couples have been burying their issues for years, failing to tell their partners how they feel. Often disagreements with a spouse can lead to looking elsewhere for comfort and understanding. This is a dangerous false belief that leads to more pain and prolonged agony. With a huge buildup of emotional suppression and the psychological and physical stress it brings, affairs in marriages can lead to a divorce before any of the issues are fixed. Staying silent in your marriage will kill your relationship and your marriage.
The first step we will undertake is to eliminate the out-of-control issues that are destroying your relationship. These immediate issues need to be stabilized for the process to move to the next step: working out the deeper root causes of these problems.
In our session, I will mention the importance of keeping an open mind about your partner and foster a way to learn new things about your relationship, yourselves, and communication skills. I will encourage replacing old ineffectual patterns of attaching and relating with healthier ways of expressing thoughts and feelings. I will ask you and your partner to put aside selfishness and accept responsibility where you may have been stuck in unloving patterns. Marriage counseling requires commitment, forgiveness, and motivation to seek your best self and refuse the temptation to blame your unhappiness solely on your partner. Marriage is a gift from God. With His help, faith, counsel, and healing, marriage can produce beautiful fruit in your life and a version of yourself previously unattainable.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Trauma and abuse
- Anger management
- Self esteem
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Attachment-Based Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Mindfulness Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Psychodynamic Therapy, Trauma-Focused Therapy
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Julie Klecker is incredible and easy to talk to.
I highly recommend Julie, she listens and responds well to any need!