Gabriel Seldess


About Me

Regardless of the length of a relationship and how it gets defined, communicating and cooperating with another person takes patience and sometimes new tactics. I believe that everyone in a relationship deserves to be happy and to be treated with respect. This requires an understanding and acceptance of each person’s expectations, assumptions, and preferences and exploring how two potentially different viewpoints can exist together. This often involves acceptance, compromise, planning, and communication.
I use a combination of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Family Therapy techniques to help explore influences and experiences that shape individual preferences, perspectives, and demands of others and work to challenge these to become more flexible when needed. I help build mood and stress management skills to help face issues like parenting, financial difficulties, and extended family problems, as well as to help with respectful communication, planning, and problem solving.
I am a Marriage and Family Therapist currently living and working in Chicago. I graduated from the Family Institute at Northwestern., and throughout my 17 years as a counselor I have addressed many struggles couples face including lack of intimacy, poor communication, parenting, and dealing with infidelity or broken trust.


  • Stress, Anxiety
  • Relationship issues
  • Family conflicts
  • Parenting issues
  • Career difficulties
Also experienced in:
Addictions , LGBT , Grief , Intimacy-related issues , Anger management , Self esteem , Depression , Coping with life changes , Coaching , Blended Family Issues , Caregiver Issues and Stress , Codependency , Commitment Issues , Read more...

Clinical approaches:
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Mindfulness Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Narrative Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy

Years of Experience: 17

Services Offered

  • Messaging

  • Phone

  • Video


LMFT #166000965 (Expires: 2021-02-01)


Written by I.M. on May 27, 2020 after counseling with Gabriel for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Gabe made me feel heard, from day one in messages I felt like he read what I wrote and was able to articulate my thoughts and ask questions that helped me process my thoughts better if they weren’t clear in the beginning. During the first video session he listens to understand as well! He really gets to know his clients.

Written by J.A. on Nov 19, 2019 after counseling with Gabriel for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

I really loved working w Gabe. He’s a very good listener. Very empathetic and understanding. He really makes you feel comfortable and extremely non-judgmental and supportive. I highly recommend Gabe.

Written by D.A. on Aug 16, 2019 after counseling with Gabriel for 2 months on issues concerning relationship

Gabriel is a wonderful counselor. Really listens to you and provides excellent feedback that is easy to implement to really try and help your relationships.

Written by M.I. on Jun 10, 2019 after counseling with Gabriel for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

During our sessions i feel understood and heard.

Written by N.I. on Jun 06, 2019 after counseling with Gabriel for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Gabriel is fantastic at listening and sharing methods to regain confidence in relationships. I recommend him to any couple that wishes to progress as a partnership and find that even playing field as a team.