Ellen DeFilipps


About Me

Hello. My name is Ellen DeFilipps and I have been a licensed marriage and family therapist for 15 years. I have a Masters degree in marriage and family therapy, and a Bachelors degree in film studies. During the course of my career as a therapist, I have been fortunate enough to work with a variety of people, some with greater challenges than others, but all of whom were equally important in terms of providing appropriate treatment so as to be able to meet their treatment goals. I have worked extensively with couples of all ages and the one common thread that runs through these sessions is the difficulty that partners have in communicating with one another. It is, therefore, the first issue that is usually addressed in session, wherein each person learns and demonstrates the practice of “active” listening. Building upon that foundation, there are several approaches that can then be taken to address the challenges that a couple may be facing. Depending on the problem(s) that the couple wishes to address, I might suggest a Solution-Focused and/or Brief Therapy approach, placing focus on a couple’s present and future circumstances and goals, rather than on their past experiences. If there are children in the home, a Family Systems approach might be used, in order to examine the family dynamics and how they might be negatively impacting the couple’s relationship. However, whatever approach is used, as long as both partners are genuinely willing to engage in the sessions, a positive outcome can generally be achieved. My fundamental belief about couples counseling is that each and every couple is unique, and that a “one size fits all” therapy style does not take into account or respect a couple’s strengths and worldview. Therapy needs to be an interactive relationship between a couple and their therapist, in which both people in the couple are partners in the therapeutic relationship rather than helpless clients.


  • Stress, Anxiety
  • Relationship issues
  • Grief
  • Parenting issues

I also have experience in Family conflicts, Sleeping disorders, Self esteem, Depression

Years of Experience: 16

Services Offered

  • Messaging

  • Phone

  • Video


LMFT #000077 (Expires: 2020-11-01)


Written by A.A. on Aug 13, 2019 after counseling with Ellen for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Ellen has been very helpful in giving me practical methods to work on myself and in turn improve my relationship.

Written by H.E. on May 21, 2019 after counseling with Ellen for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

She is very helpful and a great listener. We are benefiting greatly from her guidance.

Written by P.A. on May 15, 2019 after counseling with Ellen for 6 months on issues concerning relationship

Ellen’s role as an objective third party, gave my wife and I room to really hear each other, and have our thoughts and feelings reflected back. We took her insights, suggestions and exercises to heart, and put them into practice in between sessions. The frequency of sessions were limited, but it gave us ample opportunity to make changes for the better. Ellen was patient, a great listener, gave constructive feedback, and acknowledged our strengths as individuals and as a couple. We would definitely recommend her to work with other couples. Thank you Ellen!

Written by O.Z. on Mar 27, 2019 after counseling with Ellen for 3 months on issues concerning relationship

Ellen is wonderful. She has a real skill at getting to the root problem and offering solutions, which is exactly what we needed.