Funny, but once you know that many of the differences that couples have are never going to be resolved over the life of the relationship, then it becomes very clear that the best couples can do is first to learn to tolerate the differences with grace, humor and kindness, and second, to explore in depth the prospects, such as they are, for compromise. Hope to create change in your partner? Good luck in that goal. As a couple told me a short while ago, their arguments about what went wrong far exceeded in intensity the problems created by the original conflict. Gottman work leads couples to embrace knowing the other, understanding their needs, their hopes and dreams, and respecting and appreciating the partner's point of view. There can of course be compromise and we can pursue that, but I prefer to support a more reasonable goal of respect and appreciation for the partner. As the research shows, contempt, criticism, defensiveness and stonewalling are deadly to a relationship and so, counters to those behaviors can be embraced in support of powerful relationships.
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Don is absolutely incredible. He does what he does because he truly loves it and believes in couples succeeding through the Gottman method. My husband and I saw Don for a little over 2 months and we came out of our sessions with so much knowledge and insight into who we were as a couple and as individuals. Don picked up on things that we weren't even aware of. Don cares about his patients and wants to see them succeed to be the best version of themselves. I have been in therapy before (both individual and couple), and Don has been the best. I cannot say enough good things about him and know that if we need to come back, we will be seeking to work with him again.
Don is AMAZING, and I’m not just blowing smoke. He is caring and genuine. He is humble and wise. He is WAY beyond what we were expecting to get out of this online counseling. He listens more closely than it may appear, (as he does quite a bit of the talking), but he obviously listens closely as he picks up on subtle things. He is very insightful. He offers great advice in a gentle manner. He is also a very nice man. We are both REALLY enjoying working with Don and I believe he will have an important and positive impact on our relationship. One day I would love to be able to sit down with him over a beer or a glass of wine and just socialize and get to know him better.