If you are reading this, it is likely that you have exhausted all your own abilities to resolve couple/family problems that you believe a professional like I can help find a solution. That’s the first important step toward solving your issues. Or, you may have other reasons for trying teletherapy from being locked down to, difficulty finding professionals in your area, cost, or curiosity. That’s good too. Teletherapy is likely to become a major method of providing mental health to others.
However as you read through these blurbs and look at little pictures describing the therapists, it not easy to select a therapist. So, my recommendation to you is to try out a therapist for a couple of sessions like you would a pair of shoes. Does it feel right, comfortable, and a good fit for you needs? Most good therapists would rather you move to someone else than to stay with them reluctantly or unwillingly. On the other hand, it is difficult to open up yourself repeatedly in search of a therapist. I recommend a therapist that sees the couple as the client.
So why try me? I have two graduate degrees in therapy – one in family therapy and a second in counseling psychology. I spent two and a half years training couples/family therapists at the University level. I worked for five years in schools doing school psychology with parents and teenagers. For decades, I had private practices in family therapy and counseling psychology where most of my work was with state agencies. I spent the last of my professional career working for the VA with Veterans (and spouses). I have presented papers and made presentations all over the country on a wide range of topics – you can find most of them on Google professional search engine. Why am I working with BetterHelp? I found retirement boring. I worked with two therapists who saw clients into their 80s and now I understand why.
The best descriptor of my approach is “eclectic” meaning the integration of the different approaches I have studied, the theories, interventions, and approaches over the decades to help others. (I wrote a paper describing my approach decades ago and would be happy to share it with you.) It should be obvious to the casual observer that one size shoe does not fit everyone – so eclectic. It is often the case that one or both members of a couple want me to “fix” the other member. Sometimes there is some validity to that approach while at others a mid-ground solution is best. (Of course, it’s another story if violence or drugs are involved.) I usually see the relationship as the client rather than one member or another. Though it is a possible approach, it is often the case that individual therapy for a couple problem results in a separation.
I wish you best of luck as you search for a therapist. I hope I can be of help.
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Psychologist # 15745 (Expires: 2023-03-31)
We've only had one session but he has been very helpful and insightful so far in order to overcome the challenges we are facing.