I truly enjoy working with couples and helping them facilitate both their communication, and sometimes intimacy, issues. I have learned that often, as couple have been together for longer periods of time, they find themselves becoming different individuals than they were when they first got together and accommodating each others' needs may present a challenge. I tend to believe that infidelity has more to do with dishonesty than anything else and so I teach a process called radical honesty so that each member of the couple can get a better sense of what their truth is and communicate it to their partner. I have been married more than once myself, so I know whereof I speak, both from my academic pursuits and life experience. I admire the Gottman approach to couples therapy and I truly try to maintain both neutrality and a lack of judgment when counseling couples. There are many mythologies in our society with regard to life-long relationships, so I seek to let every couple recognize how unique they are and am reluctant to offer a generalized approach before I have heard their whole story. I find non-violent communication, NVC, to be a wonderful way for couples to communicate because it is rooted in couples sharing their values rather than devolving into a "he said, she said" situation which often just leads to both hurt feelings and recrimination.
- Relationship issues
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
- Intimacy-related issues
I also have experience in Stress, Anxiety, Addictions, LGBT, Grief, Parenting issues, Anger management, Self esteem, Career difficulties
LMFT #3258 (Expires: 2020-12-31)
LMFT #1509 (Expires: 2021-08-01)
Cris is very open minded and uses his life experiences to help me find my way. Every time I talk to him I'm left with more to think about.
Cris has been amazing for my husband and I! We love having our video sessions with him. He has helped us with our marriage and also personal growth as well. We feel grateful to have found this program and Cris!
Very understanding and caring. Listens well and guides us along a constructive path. We have learned to communicate better and he helped us learn more about one another.
Cris continues to offer an intelligent, caring perspective. And I appreciate that.
Cris is great! He listens and understands my problems, and he responds to messages in a timely manner.
Cris has been very helpful in helping me navigate a challenging relationship.
Straight forward and no nonsense - exactly perfect for anyone looking for tools to better themself.
Chris is so insightful and respectful. Myself and my partner really believe he can help us and already has. This has been the best couples counselor we have had and want to stick with him as long as we can afford to do so. Thanks Chris!
Cris Roman saved my marriage. His approach to therapy taught my husband and I the skills we needed to change the way we communicated and the way we understood each other. He is very non-judgemental and helps each person make sense of the others' feelings and actions without taking sides or placing blame. His ability to make you feel heard while helping you to see and understand why your significant other is acting a certain way is phenomenal.
We greatly appreciate the guidance and time Cris put into helping us. He is a gifted counselor.
We haven't been working with Chris long but already he has been a tremendous help I'm looking forward to working with him in the future.
Cris was wonderful at cutting through all the issues and getting to the core problem so we could work on that. We felt like our sessions with him were vital in getting us back on track as a strong, loving couple that can separate our own emotional baggage from issues we have as a couple. He was also able to give us tools to connect and communicate more effectively. Highly recommend
Incredibly insightful. Very easy to talk to.
Chris has been great!