Chad Spencer


About Me

My approach to treatment is very much informed by how I try to live my own life. As the saying goes “teachers teach what they most need to learn themselves”. I am not a big proponent of some of earlier styles of Psychoanalytic treatment whereby the therapist gives little information to the client about themselves, and then waits passively for the patient to begin a process of “projection”. While I do think boundaries are very important within the therapeutic relationship, boundaries that are too rigid can impede treatment and create an atmosphere of distrust on the part of the client. Oprah Winfrey was once asked the question in an interview “what do you know for sure”. She was so stumped by the question that she started to use the question in her own interviews with some of her guests. So here is one thing that I know for sure after 20 years of practice: Clients cannot heal in an environment where they do not feel safe. So, first and foremost, my job is to create a therapeutic relationship that fosters a sense of safety. Once that is established, exploration of things that may have once seemed to be too frightening to look at, suddenly seem less daunting and manageable to explore. With regard to couples therapy, I believe that attraction to another person is at least initially largely unconscious. In working with couples of all types, my approach will largely depend on how the couple defines their relationship. Also, I operate from the perspective that conflict is not only normal; it is healthy. Having conflicts in a relationship is inevitable, what makes conflict "dysfunctional" is how the couple manages conflict, not the conflict itself. Just as in individual therapy, where the person may have stored painful experiences in the unconscious mind, so too couples rarely argue over the real issues they are facing. The fight may be over something as incidental as "the dishes", but rarely does it have anything to do with the dishes when we take a closer look in therapy. It is usually something that neither partner is aware of, or at least doesn't wish to be aware of. They may be too frightened to talk about what is really concerning them for a number of reasons, including fear that they could lose the relationship if they were completely transparent, as well as other fears. Couples counseling can be enormously helpful, and my approach is tailored to the couple. Each couple is unique, and therefore my approach will vary based on how the relationship is defined.


  • Addictions
  • LGBT
  • Trauma and abuse
  • Bipolar disorder
  • Depression
Also experienced in:
Relationship issues , Family conflicts , Grief , Parenting issues , Anger management , Self esteem , Coping with life changes , Coaching , Compassion fatigue , ADHD , Aging and Geriatric Issues , Attachment Issues , Avoidant Personality , Read more...

Clinical approaches:
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Attachment-Based Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Existential Therapy, Jungian Therapy, Mindfulness Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Psychodynamic Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, Trauma-Focused Therapy

Years of Experience: 21

Services Offered

  • Messaging

  • Phone

  • Video


LCSW #sw7140 (Expires: 2023-03-31)


Written by K.R. on Jul 15, 2021 after counseling with Chad for 2 months on issues concerning relationship

Chad is a strong and empathetic listener. He asks good questions that encourage reflection. I truly feel like he cares about me.

Written by J.E. on Jun 28, 2021 after counseling with Chad for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Chad is a wonderful counselor. He is respectful and listens to everything we have to say. He gives wonderful advice.

Written by K.A. on Jun 14, 2021 after counseling with Chad for 1 month on issues concerning relationship

We have just started, but he gave me a lot to think about, look into after and between our sessions and I feel like he is understanding our situation and I am hopeful he will help our family.

Written by B.Y. on May 19, 2021 after counseling with Chad for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Chad has been the voice for me and my significant other, just having the expertise of Chad really helps me and my spouse understands alot of miscues we've had in the past and knowing how to respond. Making sure we know, if this relationship is what we want. No sugar coating at all. He's really good!!!!

Written by S.T. on May 09, 2021 after counseling with Chad for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship

Chad has been very understanding and interested in working with us, making us both feel accepted.