Dr. Carol Oster


About Me

I am a clinical psychologist currently licensed in the state of Rhode Island. I have been a psychologist for more than 30 years, following 10 years as an elementary school teacher specializing in remedial and gifted reading and math. My career as a psychologist has included over 3 decades of counseling individuals, couples, groups, and families in multiple settings. I’ve also served as professor and dean of a graduate school of psychology for over 20 years combined, teaching human development over the lifespan, cognitive-behavioral psychology, and psychological assessment.
Our familial and other significant relationships are critical to our overall health and well-being, yet are the most complex relationships we will ever have. Negotiating close partnerships with others yet retaining our own sense of self-determination is an ever-changing dance, especially as life circumstances change. Partners come to me with dilemmas that involve conflict, finances, sexuality and sex, communication, extended family, and parenting. Often, unspoken assumptions, needs, and fears from our families of origin, cultures/subcultures, or life experiences create conflict in our current relationships.

In working with intimate partnerships, I help those involved to identify their wants and needs in the relationship, to question where those come from, to choose and prioritize needs and wants from a point of awareness, and to negotiate healthy and honest “contracts” with significant others. We work on healthier ways to communicate, establishing or reestablishing trust and mutual respect, strengthening each partner in the relationship. We identify relationship goals, and figure out how to meet them using very concrete, achievable steps. Overall, we work to create a healthy, happy, successful partnership.
My areas of interest in partnership counseling include:
Parenting, including healthy parenting through and after divorce
Establishing healthy early or pre-marital relationships
“Empty nest” partnership transitions
Retirement transitions
Non-traditional partnerships
How change challenges partnerships

(Please note that I do not work in this medium with individuals whose primary concerns are addictions, domestic violence, abuse, or psychosis. You may find others in this organization who can better meet that need, or you may find that an in-person therapist is much better able to help you with those issues, especially in regard to helping you identify local resources.)

I look forward to working with you.

Carol L. Oster, Psy.D.


  • Stress, Anxiety
  • Parenting issues
  • Self esteem
  • Coping with life changes
  • ADHD

I also have experience in LGBT, Relationship issues, Family conflicts, Career difficulties, Depression, Compassion fatigue

Years of Experience: 3

Services Offered

  • Messaging

  • Phone

  • Video


Psychologist #PS01463 (Expires: 2022-06-30)


Written by S.A. on Oct 29, 2019 after counseling with Carol for 2 months on issues concerning relationship

Dr Oster is very kind hearted and works hard to connect with us on our separate levels. We are comfortable with her genuine interest in our well being and appreciate the help she has provided us this far.